OK. So, let’s just let it all out. If a Pastor can say; “I like sex!” at church then anything goes. I won’t win any Manly Man of the Year awards but I’m sick of acting like it’s not an issue. Where is it defined that men are built to be this brave, bold, strong and emotionally void person that fears not and feels not. I am sick of being defined by my favorite sport. “Hey, are you a Football Guy?” I’m sick of every men’s ministry starting off with a 10 minute clip of The Gladiator. (Russell Crowe through his phone at someone. You don’t get less manly than that.) I’m sick of being told to find my “inner man” I have to hit the woods, play in the dirt and somehow through the pending rash I will find the “grizzly” that’s been locked up inside of me. It’s all crap.
Listen, I was in the United States Marine Corps for 6 years. I have done things and seen things that I won’t tell my own wife about. Things that don’t need to be repeated; by me or anyone. And you know what… today… as “Wild At Heart” as I get is drinking expired milk and going 10 over the speed limit. Why? Cause I want to. Am I less of a man? Am I somehow no longer a man because I can’t name the last time I had the urge to go “camping.” I’ve sleep under the stars in more desserts than I can name. Thrill is gone. But even if I hadn’t gone to the Corps, I still reject this whole notion that men eat bloody steaks, grunt at power tools and have long ago shed the need for pesky emotions. I have emotions and from time to time I use them.
So let’s cut to the chase. Men, everyone of them… whether they tell you or not… have fears, shortcomings and worries. There I said it. So guys; instead of hiding behind this wall of testosterone how about we actually pretend to be human for once. I know, I know … but it’s just this one time. Then, just a quickly as you came, you can go back to the shallow empty life we can manhood; where nothing hurts and he have all the answers.
Well you keep reading, so down with the facades. See, doesn’t that feel better. See ladies; the man in your life: dad, brother, friend, more-than-a-friend, husband, cousin twice removed… has things he probably will never tell you, but he thinks about them a lot. So… a few guys who aren’t scared to drop their guard a little (myself included) are gone let you peek in a little… inside the reality of being a man.
10 Things (or less) that I think about (that others… even men… might not know)
10. I fear something happening to me and not being about to support my family.
9. I often worry if I’m ready to be father.
8. I often wonder if this fairly tale life I have (Beautiful Wife, Awesome
Church, Great Job) will fall apart one day… and will it be by my own hands.
7. I worry that my wife will get (really) sick and I not be able to take care of
her.
6. I worry about her having a problem free pregnancy.
5. I worry that my wife will begin to resent having to be the “smart one.”
4. I often wonder is my wife is really happy or did she just settle.
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So, there it is. Raw, unedited… just there. OK, guys… your turn… unless you couldn’t get your mask off in time.
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Buy hey, I could be wrong... let's have pie.
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2 comments:
Tell me about the manly man macho thing. I live in Texas. I was raised in bother germany and on Philly. I may not be able to understand what you are feeling because I am a girl (But on a different level that brings about a entirly different set of issues) but if there is one thing I know about its the entire macho man persona. Eating raw cow, ridding motor cycles and drinking way to much beer.
Props to you man. Mad props.
Erika
PS. If my pastor said he liked sex, I'd find a new church, but than again I am catholic so thats a bit different.
@Erika: If your pastor said he likes sex, he simply an honest man who speaks the truth as per your lord jesus christ, unlike hypocritic christian's (like yourself for example) who villify sex at every chance for your own personal benefit of forcefully converting gullible people (like us for example in a third world country like india) purely to impose your baseless religious terrorism, be it christianity or islam.
If sex was so bad is yahweh, your old testament god a idiot to give capabilities for every animal and plant the capability to have sex and revolve their lives and survival around sex? What was yahweh smoking when he was performing the "Creation Science" live some 6500 years ago when the world was created?
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